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You Are Never Anyone's Property! 

Breaking the Cycle

Starting with our teens

 

Today's youth are a part of the "who has the most stuff " generation.  They have iphones, ipads, laptops, video games, hottest fashion trends, etc.  It's all about who has the most stuff.  But the one thing they shouldn't have possession of is one another in their dating relationships.

 

Unfortunately, teens are often trapped in possesive dating relationships that has the potential to become abusive and dangerous.  Experts say some teens go to extremes because they lack self-esteem and are insecure about their relationships.  This insecurity can lead to jealousy and possesive behavior that could first appear to be acts of love and concern for their dating partner, but end up in abuse.

7. Forces You to Have Sex

Sex doesn't just mean intercourse. It can mean a whole range of sexual activity, including oral sex or even just touching. If your partner forces you to do anything physical that you don't want to do, get out of the relationship.

 

8. Keeps You Away From Your Friends

Abusers are pretty smart. They know that if your friends found out the truth, they'd tell you to get out of the relationship lickety-split. By pushing your friends away, abusers are trying to protect themselves. Don't let them.

 

9. Goes Through Your Phone

No one - not even the love of your life - has the right to monitor your calls and texts. And you're allowed to be in contact with whomever you want (even your exes). If your sweetie disagrees, he's trying to control you, and that's a form of abuse.

 

10. Does Anything That Scares You in Any Way

This could mean physical violence, the threat of violence, harsh words or dangerous behavior of any kind. Bottom line: if you're scared to be around someone - even someone you love - don't be around them any more. Break it off right away.

 

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, speak with someone about it - don't put it off!  

 

CALL TODAY

 

The National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline

1-866-331-9474.  

or text "loveis"  to 22522. 

 

http://www.loveisrespect.org/get-help/contact-us/call-us

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 Warning Signs of An Abusive Relationship

 

1. He Constantly Checks In on You

If your guy/girl is attentive and asks you about your life, that's fantastic. But if he/she constantly calls you and expects a full report on where you've been and who you've been with, then this is a sign of controlling and possessive behavior.

 

2. He Lies to You

Relationships can't survive unless you trust each other, and if your partner abuses that trust by lying to you, it's a relationship that isn't worth keeping. Lying regularly, or lying about important stuff, is absolutely not acceptable.

 

3. He Won't Let You Talk to Other Guys

Don't stand for this form of relationship abuse. You're allowed to talk to anyone of any gender you want. If your sweetie is suspicious of something, he should have a mature conversation with you about it, but he's not allowed to control your behavior.

 

4. He Threatens to Hurt Himself 

When someone tells you something like, "I'll kill myself if you break up with me," they're using fear and guilt to manipulate you. Any threat should be taken seriously, so speak to a parent or counselor about it. But you don't have to play along.

 

5. He Loses His Temper Quickly

Everyone gets mad sometimes, and that's okay. But if your love snaps at you over the tiniest things and blames you for things that aren't your fault, then something's wrong (and it's not you).

 

6. Embarrasses You in Public

No one who loves you (or even likes you a lot) should ever make you feel bad about yourself. Doing it in public - by calling you names or making fun of you when other people are watching - is especially cruel, and you don't have to stand for it.

 

Healthy Relationships Are Based On Equality & Trust

To schedule a free "wrap session" with your youth group please contact us.

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